Hello darlings,
As I sit here in Paris, by our silk-draped window, over looking a garden adorned with twinkling lights, I can’t help but feel full of gratitude and love. 2018 has been such an incredible year that’s been jam-packed with ups, downs, travels, growth, experiences and lots of love. What I’m sharing below are more of my personal growth goals as a human.
The top 2 things I’ve learned/always learning and working on…
- Patience. Everything in life requires patience to some degree. Work, relationships, family, friendships etc. I’ll share my thoughts on the first two. In work, I found myself at several points this year being hurt and/or upset that I wasn’t invited to certain events. Thinking negative thoughts like, “Well why wouldn’t they want me there?” “How did those people get invited?” “I must not be what they like.” etc. Bottom line, I love what I do and whether I get invited to certain things or social clubs literally has zero affect on my happiness and success. I can’t get invited to everything and I’m very fortunate and lucky to be included in some of the incredible things that I’ve done this year. And I’m super proud of that! I’ll continue to work hard and achieve my goals. In relationships, they’re not perfect no matter how much someone makes it out to be on social media. I have an absolutely wonderful husband that will stand by me no matter how hard/scary/sad something gets. Who supports me and my dreams. And I do the exact same for him. That doesn’t make it perfect though. No two partners are ever going to see eye-to-eye on everything. Joey still doesn’t understand the idea of investment pieces which is something I’m a strong believer in. And I still don’t understand his book obsession…he buys 10’s of books a month and never reads any of them. They just pile up, much to my annoyance. Our house is a library at this point so if you’re ever in need, let your girl know! But we are partners which I feel is the best word to describe a marriage, or any relationship really.
- Being grateful. We are all on our own journey so, comparing does no good. I’m grateful that I wake up every morning, healthy, able to walk, able to dance anytime I want, able to connect with all of you via my blog and social media, able to cook food that puts smiles on peoples faces, able to organize parties for our closest friends, able to share a life with my husband, etc. These are all things, whether big or small, that I’m incredibly grateful for! Life is truly wonderful and full of possibility!
Things I want to work on for 2019…
- Continue working on the things I outlined above. Patience and being grateful. We are always learning and growing.
- Letting go of things and people that don’t serve me. I’m definitely a positive, glass all the way full kind of girl! That doesn’t mean that things/people don’t get to me. In LA, and elsewhere, there are a lot of different types of people with different priorities. I recently had a confrontation with some people that I know have different views than I do. After several comments over time, I finally snapped on them about the topic. I felt bad for snapping, of course. But I’m only human. I had reached my limit and couldn’t remain quiet anymore. I’m making it my goal this year to not put myself in those situations. I carry that frustration around for days if not weeks when something like that happens. I need to work on letting it go and not letting negativity have an affect on me. So, that is definitely a big one for me this year!
- Self-love. I went to a conference that my friend, Brittany Potter, put on called Show Up Series. It had some incredible speakers, among my favorites was Paul Fishman. The concept of the event was to show up for yourself. Be present and be aware of how you’re feeling and what you’re thinking. Then, be kind to yourself once you have those feelings and thoughts. If I’m feeling overwhelmed, I’ll take Husker (my youngest pup) for a walk and listen to some music. Or go to the gym and do a treadmill interval workout. For some reason, I can let go of a lot on the treadmill. Sweating it out and listening to killer workout playlists. (Which, btw, would you like me to share some of my playlists with you??) And if I find myself comparing myself to others, which- let’s be honest, we all do sometimes, I will remind myself that I am a beautiful, positive energy that only intends to emit love and support to myself and everyone around me. It’s what I aim to be every day and that’s exactly the stamp I want to leave on this world and each person that comes in contact with me on social media and in real life. Being full of love on the inside so I can present my best self to the world each and every day.
There you have it, I aim to be more patient, remembering to be grateful, full of self-love and letting things go. I’m welcoming the new year ready to tackle anything that comes my way! Cheers to 2019 being another year of growth, love, patience and achievement for all of us! What are some of your goals?
Xox
Tessa
